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How to tell if your spouse is lying and what to do about it

On Behalf of | Jan 10, 2023 | Divorce |

If you’ve found your way to our blog, you’re probably considering divorce. It’s a big decision to make, and one that you shouldn’t take lightly. After all, there are significant emotional and financial implications tied to the decision to end your marriage.

Yet, as difficult as it may be, divorcing your spouse may be the best way to protect your physical, emotional, psychological and financial well-being. But if you want to get through the divorce process as unscathed as possible, you need to know how to navigate not only the complexities of the law but also the nuances of your relationship with your spouse. This can be difficult to do when you suspect that your spouse is lying about key issues.

How to tell if your spouse is lying

Determining whether your spouse is lying about something can be pivotal in your marriage, your decision to get a divorce and how to approach certain legal issues. So, if you suspect that your spouse is lying to you, you might want to look for the following signs for confirmation:

  • Avoiding eye contact
  • Exhibiting defensiveness
  • Evading your questions
  • Sweating when being questioned
  • Trying to put off the conversation
  • Minimizing the accusations
  • Presenting questionable body language
  • Providing details in excess of what you asked for

There are, of course, other signs of lying. But if your spouse is exhibiting any of those identified above, you might want to start investigating more thoroughly to ensure that you have the truth.

Dealing with a liar in your divorce

 If you think that your spouse is lying to you during divorce proceedings, you’ll want to take action to ensure that you’re protecting your interests while proceeding through your marriage dissolution as smoothly as possible. This may include doing each of the following:

  • Minimizing contact so that your spouse has a limited opportunity to twist your words and generate lies about your interactions with him or her.
  • Keeping a journal that details interactions with your spouse so that you can more clearly recall the events later, which will better ensure that you’re not tripped up by your spouse’s lies later on.
  • Recognizing that the lying may be indicative of a deeper issue, such as emotional trauma or some other mental health condition, and that it really has nothing to do with you.
  • Holding firm to your position so that your spouse doesn’t gaslight you into believing that you’re being unreasonable.
  • Finding issues where you can accommodate your spouse in a way that will placate them to a certain extent while still protecting your interests.
  • Preparing to present external evidence that supports your arguments and contradicts your spouse’s.
  • Seeking support from family members, friends, and mental health professionals to ensure that you remain healthy, motivated, and encouraged throughout your divorce proceedings.

Don’t be taken advantage of by a lying spouse

If you’re not careful, a lying spouse can quickly derail your divorce, leaving you with an outcome that you never expected and never wanted. This can cost you time, money, and a lot of stress.

You don’t want that kind of result, and you can probably avoid it with a sound legal strategy. That’s why now may be the best time for you to reach out to a legal team that you think will give you the representation you need to get through this challenging time. Hopefully, by doing so you’ll be able to protect yourself, your interests and your future, allowing you to move on to the next chapter in your life.

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